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Monday, September 6, 2010

Desires and Beliefs.....are they resonant?

Everyone has desires for their life or material desires or desires for what they want to achieve, but how many of these desires are realized and if not , why not? Desires are just one component of deliberate creation, they reside in the asking portion of deliberate creation. The leverage for manifesting your desires into your experience is what you believe because what you believe is what you expect, and what you expect is what you get. That's the rub of "we don't get what we want, we get what we are".

Think about beliefs and desires as two different operating systems. Your desires are what you would like to have come to fruition or reality and they are born for the most part out of the contrast that life provides you, or the things you don't like or don't want to happen. Beliefs are what you take to be real, based on your experience or what you were conditioned to believe as you progressed through life. Every experience that you have had was input into your belief system and to some extent into your desire system.

If those two systems are not congruent, not in sync, you are stuck with what is. How can you have what you don't think is possible? You can't because what you are is someone that does not believe what you desire is possible. That's why I like using the question "What if it were different?" when I come up against resistance. That question when pondered genuinely and openly from your heart with no preconceived notion of what might be, opens you up to be someone different than what you believe. It goes along with "I'm excited to see what I might become!".

In the most simplistic terms, have you ever seen a child in a store tugging on their parents leg or arm telling them that they want a toy or candy bar.....and the parent turns to them and says something like "No, you don't deserve that, your not being a good boy/girl". Well if they hear that enough along with other seemingly harmless comments like "we can't afford that" or "what do think, money grows on trees!" they begin believing that life is hard and money is scarce or you have to work hard for abundance.

Think about it, how many wealthy people do you know that their children go on to live wealthy and abundant lives? Most of the ones I know have children that lead abundant lives and give freely of their time and resources because that is what they learned and their belief system supports. Abundance is nothing more than energy! Why? Because everything is nothing more than energy, your thoughts and beliefs and desires are nothing more than energy. When your desire energies and your belief energies are resonant, buckle up because you are in for a ride!!!

So, but how do you get your beliefs synced up with your desires? Well, your can rewrite them energetically, I do that for people, but you can do it yourself as well, it just takes more work. Develop a discipline of thinking outside the box, just one different thing a day that you make a habit and then develop another one, like questioning something that you take to be real. Beliefs always have payoffs, otherwise you wouldn't keep them, the tricky thing is the payoffs of some beliefs don't serve you in expanding, they keep you locked in a small model of how things are or how life works.

Take for instance, a work place where a person believes that the way to get ahead is to meet the expectations of the decision makers. That belief creates a payoff that once "I" as the person that wants to get ahead pleases the decision maker, I get ahead. How that cannot serve you is that generally speaking, the "I" that wants to get ahead, compromises themselves for the sake of getting ahead to please the decision maker and the more they do this, the more they lose themselves and become less of who they truly are. Corporate scandals and Wall Street bail outs are the resulting outcome. But worse than that grandiose scale is the average Joe just trying to get ahead. And the prevailing belief becomes "to get ahead, I have to comply" or "I'm not talented enough to get ahead on my talent, I need to play the game". I see that one allot, and one of my favorite mentors calls that living a slow death, to which I must agree.

Now trust me, I know taking the high road and speaking your mind or living your talents and not being concerned with being "in line" with your boss has consequences, my "career" stalled the day I made my mind up to live authentically and walk the walk rather than just talk the talk, but the funny thing is, I have learned more from taking the authentic path, I love what I do, and I'm successful in spite of those that feel I'm a cowboy! I'm not getting promoted, but frankly Getting promoted would take me away from what I love. I have opened up to a new model of who I am, what is most important to me and I still have my corporate job and very good income, but outside of work is where life has really opened up. Most people reside in a belief that their job is who they are! And how many of them can say, I love my work?

What if it were different? Or my favorite question to anyone that finds themselves stuck in a problem or phase of life is this, "what bad thing happens if....?". Not what bad thing might happen, and when I ask that question, I'm not even looking for a particular answer, the question acts almost like a re-boot, takes them out of their model of thinking and opens up different possibilities of what might be. For instance "What bad thing happens if your not frustrated by your spouse not having dinner prepared when you get home?" or "What bad thing happens if you deserve to be loved?"

More to come on this in a few days, this post is too long as it is.....Be Well!!!

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