Be the Love that you are!!!

"You cannot define love with even the largest definition, for your understanding is not external to it. Because love is who you are, you will never fully comprehend its mysteries. Because love is who God is, love is the Divine Mystery. Love cannot be controlled. It cannot be predicted. It cannot be enforced. It cannot be enslaved. It cannot be killed. It cannot be defined. If you would speak of the depth, the power, and the infinite genius of love, think upon its ability to end all duality. Love has no opposites. It cannot be captured, and yet it willingly serves. It is infinitely free, and yet it abides in captivity. It cannot be enforced, and yet it is the basis of all law. It is the bringer of truth, and yet it never judges. It is the seer of all things, and yet it never condemns. It conquers by surrendering. It rules by lifting up. Through its mastery of paradox, love ends all duality."

Jesus said that and of course he was right..........I especially like "If you would speak of the depth, the power, and the infinite genius of love, think upon its ability to end all duality. Love has no opposites............It rules by lifting up. Through its mastery of paradox, love ends all duality."

My oldest Son told me today that what he has learned from me is to be aware of how he perceives things....changing negative thoughts to positive thoughts, and that changes who he is.

We don't get what we want, we get what we ARE!!! So what ARE you? Be the LOVE that you are and see what happens. LOVE does not judge, does not label right or wrong.....it conquers by surrendering. So what is Surrender? Just Being...........Be willing to be the LOVE that you are.

Anything Can Happen!!!

You can't make it Happen!!!

You can only allow it to Happen!!!

If You allow it to Happen in order to Make It Happen, it won't Happen!!!

That is the difference between "creation" and "Creativity"........."Creativity" emerges from you by Surrendering your will and allowing the divine presence to experience life "through You" or "As You". It's not enough to know this, Do It!!!

How do you do it? Get quiet, Get still.....and fall in love with being alive. Then see what comes!!!

Alignment......What do you mean?

Somebody asked me recently what being in alignment actually means. They said "Define what you mean by being in alignment."

My response was "Being in love with being Alive.......just that, not being in love with your Job, or your bank account or even your significant other. It's being in love with being alive!!"

There is a reason why the United States ranked 26th on a list of countries based upon how "Happy" people are.......26th!!!! And the number one country, the country that in general people are the most "Happy" was Nigeria............Nigeria!!! Not the country you think of when thinking of prosperity or abundance.

How is it that the United States is 26th? Because we have been conditioned to think that satisfaction is derived from material gain and accumulation. Being in Love with being Alive? What a Pollyanna attitude......."I have to get it while I can" and "look at what happened to my portfolio the last two years!!" Ugh!! 26th is probably higher than you could expect.

Outside circumstances are temporal, fleeting and we all know this.......so to think that our enjoyment of Life is based upon these external things is Crazy!!! One minute your someones guardian angel, soul mate or the "one that completes them".......and in a split second you have totally let them down!!!

Don't be attached to an outcome!! Rarely will that outcome reach you!! And why is that? Because you can't will anything to happen, you can't hope for it to happen (and it happen), and you definitely can't force anything to happen..........You can Allow life to happen and be in love with it...........and No, that does not mean sticking your head in the sand or checking out from society..........Good Lord, get a grip!!!

So what does it mean to "Allow".........Get out of your own way!!! Rely on your intuition or your True Self, the "I am-ness" that is always available. From that You (your Soul), information from the Non-local or infinite potential realm has a self supportive directive quality as opposed to information based on the very limited historical local you. We have all experienced it based upon our openness to it. Unfortunately, most people either recognize it as their "Gut" telling them something but do not follow its direction only to later say "I knew I shouldn't have done that, I knew it!!" or they relegate it to "That was so weird!!!" rather than, "That was freaking awesome!!!"

The next time you get frustrated or "someone let's you down!!"........Stop in your tracks and contemplate the fact that you are standing on a planet that is spinning at thousands of miles an hour in orbit of a Sun in perfect alignment with 7 (apparently Pluto is no longer considered a planety) other planets at the precise distance to sustain Life. You are standing on a planet of abundant species, beauty and growth that has been around for Billions of years. You are part of a Universe that is self fulfilling.......surely as part of that Universe, You could be in Love with every minute aspect of life and not have your day ruined by what someone else did or did not do!!!

Or we could trudge along adapting to the whims of other people and a world that is against us and not for us. Yuck!!!

Anything can happen.
You can't make it happen.
You Allow it to happen.
And, If you allow it to happen in order to make it happen, It won't happen.

Ah, YEAH!!!

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment."

Marcus Aurelius

I was talking to one of my best friends the other day and the topic turned to how fickle people can be with how they feel about another person. Someone is in Love with another person until the other person does or says something that the first person does not like, or sometimes it is just what they appear to have done. At work, people are held in high regard until they do something that does not support their peer or manager. Just like that they can go from the fast track to hitting a glass ceiling.

So as we talked, I said "you know what would change everything, and again it is all perspective, but say a couple had a falling out, the woman got upset about something the man did. If they sat down and agreed that they did not want to be upset with each other, all they have to do is put themselves in the context that they have one last day to spend together......and decide how they want to spend it. I could be wrong, but I doubt it would be pissed at each other.......It would probably be doing something they both enjoy or have talked about doing but as yet have not done. Hell, maybe they spend the day in bed!!!

The difference is the version of themselves that they choose to be. My friend playing devil's advocate countered with, "yeah, but the issue isn't resolved". Yeah, but the version of who they are for that day does not care......it's irrelevant, and how many "issues" when it comes right down to it are irrelevant?

Okay, Okay......I'll be practical.........just because the couple had an issue, does not mean they need to grant it the authority of a conclusion. In other words, change your assessment of it or as Marcus would say "revoke your estimate of the external thing causing you distress".


If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask nobody to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world or needing to control your mate or your child. You are the only one that creates your reality, for nobody else can think for you, it is only you.

Abe

This one is tricky, "the cumbersome impossibility of needing to control your mate or child". Ouch!!! But true!! This is perplexing, shouldn't we as parent's control our children? Well, How did that work out for your parents? I don't know very many "Adults" that have the track record of never having done stupid things or having never totally fucked up at some point in their life.......I'm much more down with guiding my boys to understand the last sentence, "You are the only one that creates your reality, for nobody else can think for you, it is only you."

From a parenting standpoint, I think its much more responsible to teach our kids to think for themselves including how to make the right decisions for themselves, but I also know that is counter to the conventional parenting wisdom.......you know the wisdom that at a certain age, you know what is best for someone else..........or the wisdom that ascribes to a government mandate on education, but I'm digressing.......You get my point!!

There is nothing "out there" independent of what's happening inside of me. In other words what's happening "out there" is very much affected by what I have going on inside of me, my mind, my thoughts and emotions. Without my thoughts and feelings the external world would be very much different. Now think about that, the impact that mine and your thoughts have on what is happening outside of us, in everyone Else's experience.

Fred Alan Wolf

This one is tricky as well. You have witting and unwitting thoughts and beliefs......you know that, right? Some of both, the witting and unwitting do not serve us and or actually work against us. The belief that "you" are the "effect" of the external world as the "cause".......and yes you do believe that to some extent!!!........you know when you get upset or frustrated or sad when something doesn't go your way, or someone does not comply with your desires......like your mate or your child.........or the classic "Your Ex". That is the world being the cause and you being the effect. Hell, It's a daily occurrence for most people.

That backward cause and effect perspective is an unwitting belief. It's not deliberate, it's by default.........and it's wrong. You are the cause of your external experience...........You see things because you believe them........not what most people think which is the old saying "I'll believe it when I see it"........I've got news for you, You ain't gonna see it if you don't believe it.

Now the tricky part to Dr. Quantum's, it's actually the good part. You have a local and a non-local aspect of you. You know, like particle and Wave function. The particle aspect of you is the "I am a man" or "I am a Father".......think of it as "I am" followed by a predicate. I am tired, or I am disappointed is the local or particle aspect of You in play. The non-local or Wave aspect of you is just "I am", its the you that when you are in deep thought or meditation "just is" not attached to anything. The Wave aspect of you is not in you or even this world, just the opposite, they are in the Wave aspect of you. Doink!!!

Now, think of a wave more as a verb rather than a noun, potential rather than a thing........that non-local, wave, aspect of You is infinite potential. And as infinite potential, that is where every version of you exists. So get quiet, get still, clear out your thoughts........and rest in the "I amness" of your non local self. Now choose the version of you that you wish to be, and reside in that self for just a minute or maybe two. Feel what the self feels like........and don't be surprised if you catch yourself smiling, nothing wrong with that..........you are creating from that version of you and guess what? The Universe only knows, Okay, here you go.

This is what the voice was talking about at the burning bush when Moses asked the voice, "Who shall I tell the Pharaoh sent me to attain the release of the slaves". The voice simply said, "Tell him 'I am that I am", meaning I am the I am that is the infinite potential to make that which serves take place. Make sense? The voice didn't say "I am the ruler of the universe" which would be limiting, no Moses heard, I am that I am...........I am one with all that is, ever was or will be.........and guess what? You have that aspect as well...........just choose to be "I am"!!!

Note to Self!!!...I'm letting Go with help from Rickie Byars Beckwith

I am letting go, and I know the darkness will fade. I am letting go of the thoughts that I am separate and just my body. There's a light all around me, the pain in my thoughts has kept me holding on but I know that is not Me. I feel I'm letting go. I'm ready to run and I'm ready to leap into what is real knowing that Heaven's at hand right now always right here, closer than my breath, nearer than my thoughts.

New life is awaiting while I'm rearranging these old facts of my life. The infinite potential that is ours is becoming fact as I remember I am not this body, I am not bound by limiting thoughts or beliefs. I am deliberately reincarnating today as an extension of all that is.

I am tired of holding on, my heart's making an authentic appeal. I am moving from my old mind to my new mind by getting out of my head and into my heart. It's such a sweet invitation, a mandate of ecstasy to not hold any longer to my willful desires. I'm allowing and residing in alignment with all that corresponds with mine and all that is for the highest good.

I'm letting go of my will, dropping my tools and following my highest goal of being in the flow of the Universe. I won't abide in my vision, it's time to release, I'm the light within that's trying to be free and I allow it. I am the Universe being itself through me.

I feel like letting go of negative emotion. Frustration is only me being stuck in the thoughts of being separate and needing anything. I Let go, and let God/Universe. The power of God/Universe is guiding me to surrender to what I've got to be, The Universe being itself through me. Pure Positive Well being and Love, I am residing in that. I am residing in knowing that we are not separate, but all connected, all powerful, all knowing.....we are Love, we are the energy and intelligence and Love that created all that has ever been, all that is and all that ever will be. Never been born, Never will die.

I'm letting Go of the impossibility of controlling anything outside of me. Knowing that when I'm in alignment all things are possible. Knowing that when I'm in alignment with my true essence, anything can be that I identify with, that I reside in, that I become in resonance or correspondence with. With Alignment all things are bountiful because I need nothing and so I have everything.

As I let go, the darkness fades, I rest in letting go for I know I don't get what I want, I get who I am. When I get still and reside in the knowing that I create every moment and I am deliberate in being the version of myself that is in alignment with the source of all things, pure positive Love and all powerful, all things other than joy and well being will cease to be.

You are always getting what you are intending....

Always!!! No exception!!!

"But I didn't intend for that to happen!!" I hear that all the time from people. Or, "Why would I have intended for that to happen?" Well, in both cases, the individual is not aware of what they are intending........One of my mentors calls those "unwitting intentions".

The Universe, The Field, Source Energy or however you refer to it only knows "Yes"..........it says Yes to everything. So going back to those beliefs that may not even be accurate or are not serving you..........The Universe is saying "Yes" to them.

So, How do you know if you have unwitting intentions.......or beliefs that do not support what you want? Just look at your life......It's a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs..........as another mentor of mine says "You can't hide from your secret thoughts because they keep showing up as your life!!" Yes to this thought, Yes to that belief.....Yes, Yes, Yes.............Not, are you sure? Not, you might want to re-think that one...........Always Yes!!!

That's the good news!!! So, your job is to look at your life and if your not getting what you want, it just means your thoughts and beliefs are not in agreement with what you want. So get them in alignment, or in agreement.

What does that mean......Alignment or in Agreement with what you want? Embody it, rest in it!! If you simply repeat an affirmation or visualize an outcome without feeling what the outcome will be, what are you accomplishing? the exact opposite..........and the Universe always says Yes! For example, repeating the affirmation "I am healthy and full of vitality" without embodying how that feels or resting in that feeling is essentially saying "I don't have health or vitality"......and that is what you have.

Try it with something trivial but something that would be so random that you will recognize it when it happens. For instance, one person came up with the idea of while on a walk finding 3 quarters lined up on the sidewalk all with the head's up. They closed their eyes, imagined they were on the walk, came around a corner and saw the three quarters all face up. They rested in that imaginary sequence and imagined what they felt like when they picked them up, they imagined how they felt at that moment knowing they had created the scenario. They rested in the feeling of accomplishing this simple but powerful exercise. It was so palpable that they were smiling with their eyes closed as they imagined finding the quarters.

A few weeks later, they reported that they had indeed found the quarters, but when asked if the quarters were all face up, they said they were so excited at the time, they did not even notice.....but they went on to say how awesome it was. Now the funny thing and very telling about beliefs is that when the idea was proposed to do it again but this time verify that the quarters were all face up..............they scoffed at it!!! Almost as if to say, well once, yeah I could believe that, but twice? Come on!!!

This person had literally been successful in becoming a version of themselves that created the feeling inside of a scenario that they intended to have happen, a very specific scenario mind you. The scenario came to fruition, they actually lived the very specific scenario they intended.......and then when asked to do it again, fell back into a version of them self that did not believe they could do it again. Do it, then do it again!!! You can, You know!!!

Deliberate Creating.....

I was asked the other day, "What does it mean to deliberately create?" to which I replied, "Do you want the long or short answer?"

Deliberate creating is 'You" becoming the version of "You" that is in agreement with what you want. The next question after that statement was "Why would I ever not be in agreement with what I want?" Well, because for the vast majority of people, 95% of the time the version of our self that we are operating in, is conditioned habit. We are operating from the beliefs we hold in our subconscious that are formed from what we are told or learn in some fashion and what we experience regardless of the accuracy of the knowledge or perception of the experience.

So think about it, what if the beliefs we operate from are not accurate or are not congruent with what we want? Well, that's easy, we don't get what we want!!! Life is an inner process.....the inner is what causes the outer.......which means the outer is the effect of the inner. What do you think Jesus meant when he said "Go Within"?

Let me try to paint an example, take someone that has trouble trusting in relationships. In their past, they have been abused or deceived and their experience is that when they trust, they are hurt. They hold a belief that others will hurt them, and that belief prevents them from trusting. Hold that thought.

Now, all versions of "You" exist. For the person just referenced that does not trust others that version is easy to see exists, so where is the version that does trust? Well, the version that does trust is trusting fear or trusting that they will be hurt......and by resting in that version of their self (which is not so obvious to see) guess what they get? That which they are in agreement with.......being fearful and getting hurt.

If it's that easy to be in agreement with fear and being hurt and creating that experience for yourself, why would it be any more difficult in being in agreement with the version of "You" that is trusting and open? If the Universe can deliver to you being hurt based on what you have going on inside, why can't it just as easily deliver being loved based on what you have going on inside?...........Why indeed!!!

Relationship......Try this out to see how easy it is to change one!!

So, everything is about relationship.....relationship with others, with yourself (most important one), with the present moment (big one too), so how do you change the habitual thinking you have about certain relationships?

Try this out. Think of two people. The first should be the person that for you is the easiest to be around, to love, to think of, to converse with.......they are just easy to be with. The second should be the person that for you is the most annoying person that you know, if you didn't have to, you would never spend anytime with them. They are difficult to love, to think of and just be around.

Okay, so you have the two people in mind, get a piece of paper and for the person that for you is easy to Love, write down all the positive aspects of that person. This will probably be easy and will be quick.....Good.

Then, for the person that is annoying and hard to Love, write down all the positive aspects of that person, and this may seem very difficult to do, but give it some thought and you will be able to come up with a list. Write them down.

Now that your done, did you observe or sense anything as you were doing this? If you really did this from an open place, you probably felt a palpable change in feelings especially about the second person. Why? because the True YOU, knows the annoying things the second person does.......check that, the True YOU knows that all the little insignificant things that your ego finds annoying is about your ego, much more than the other person.

Now, frequently when I do this with someone, they will say, "but it's true, they do those things", but they fail to see that the only reason they become part of their experience is because they allow them to. Don't care what anyone else thinks, or does........care only about where your thoughts are, and how those thoughts make you feel.......There is nothing more important!!! That is being deliberate in managing the most important relationship of all.........the one between YOU and You.

Relationship......Life is one big series of

Everything is about Relationship. Everything!!! No exceptions. So what is your relationship with this moment? Are you in harmony with the moment, or are you in discord or contradiction or resistance. Well, how do you feel?

More than a few people have asked me why it is that at the onset of a new relationship with someone, especially a romantic relationship, everything just seems to being flowing. You know, that feeling when the other person can do no wrong, everything is going well, you experience very little frustration, and you just feel GOOD!! And then there seems to be this point where that changes and you slip back into your normal groove. What happened?

First and foremost, understand that it's not the other person that has changed anything. As a matter of fact, it was not the other person doing anything that made you feel so good initially....no it was not!! It was you!!! And then at the moment that bliss changed back to your normal routine, that was you too!!! Make no mistake.......and give yourself a little credit!!!

Credit? Why would I deliberately move from Bliss to Blah.......even if I knew how, why would I do that? Habit!! Basing your relationship with life on false premises!!! Sloppy thinking!! All true. I have talked about habit in the past, no need to revisit that here. But, have not talked about false beliefs or premises enough, so here we go again!!

Here is a big one, A flawed belief that doe snot serve you in any positive way. #1. To be in Harmony and Bliss with another person, we have to want and believe the same things.

Seems like common sense, but it's not. Truth be told, to be in harmony and be in bliss with anything, you must have Harmony between YOU and you.......YOU, your true, ineffable, eternal YOU and you that is experiencing your physical life. Okay, so how do I do that?

Think about the beginning of a relationship when everything is going so well. It's nothing that the other person is doing that causes that, it's YOU!! Your True self, the ineffable, eternal YOU is pure positive energy. That YOU sees only positive aspects of everything, and in essence the other person that you think is making life so blissful, is actually just a catalyst for you being in harmony with your True Self. Put another way, You are not using the other person to disconnect or jump out of alignment with YOU. And you spend much more time in alignment with your true self appreciating positive aspects of everything. You are more creative, you have more energy, enthusiasm, you become solution oriented.......because the more positive thoughts that you have, the more are attracted to you. That is BIG, re-read it again!!!

So at that dreaded point when the relationship changes, you think it's the other person has changed, or they have done something that they are no longer deserving of your Love, or any number of other rationalizations to explain what happened. Truth be told, is that the relationship has changed, but its the relationship You have with YOU.......You moved out of alignment with your True Self and your not seeing the positive aspects of Life that you were seeing before.........and you start seeing the aspects of life that support what you (ego you, in a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment) already believe (and what if your beliefs are not accurate or do not serve you)....like, relationships always turn out this way, or I'm not worthy, I don't deserve to be this happy, or relationships are drama and here it comes.......laugh, but you know it's true, stupid, but true!!

So, When You care so much about another person that You don't allow what they do or think to knock you out of alignment with your True Self, can you see a level of commitment that is rarely observed. There is nothing more important to you and everyone else for that matter, then your own well being.......because your well being is what allows you to expand and grow, which causes others to expand and grow........that is Life expanding through YOU, as YOU......and as You in the physical experience we refer to as our life.

So what is your relationship with YOU?? Are you seeing the positive aspects of everything? Or are you seeing what supports what you already believe?........It's your choice, choose well!!

I Love you so much....I don't care what you think!!!

Oooh!! That feels so good to say and reside in. If I cared what you thought and then changed because of what you thought of me.............where does that leave me? Well, inauthentic to begin with, but worse yet, in resistance to my true Self...........or out of alignment. Well, Fuck that!!!

I can see many people saying, thats kind of narcisistic, or that's so self centered or selfish. Yep!!! What is more important than your own well being? Nothing!!!

Maybe I can tone it down a bit. I care about you so much, and our relationship means so much to me that while I respect your opinions, I know compromising my own well being by conforming to your expectations is disrespectful to both you and I. When I am aligned with my true self and all that I hold dear to me, that is when our relationship is thriving. That is when I am at my best and when our relationship is at it's best.

Mainstream thinking does not value this approach..............but its easy to do, just go with how you feel. The next time someone tells you that they want you to do a certain thing or behave a certain way, just stop and see how it feels..............if there is the least bit of resistance (negative emotion) whatever you do, don't do it...........Just tell the person you respect their request, but your not going to comply because it does not feel right. Then, you will probably need to explain to the other person that by not complying, it does not mean you don't care about them......and it's actually the opposite.........You care about them so much and your relationship with them that you are going to insure you stay as aligned with your True Self as possible even if that means not caring whast they think!!!!

OMG WTF!!!! Seriously!!! There is nothing more important than your well being, Nothing!! To yourself and everyone that you interact with.........NOTHING!!!!

You can't hide from your thoughts, because they just keep showing up as your life.............So if you spend the vast majority of your time in a state of Joy or well being, what will show up?? A life that is delicious!!!

The Ego!!! Ugh!!! Ah, There it goes again.

The best definition that I have ever experienced for the Ego is "The dysfunctional relationship with the present moment." Eckhart Tolle penned that and how true is that? And really that is what this Blog is all about......not that the Ego is bad, it's not.......it's that we are either having a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment or we are not........and the good news is that when we realize that we might be having that dysfunctional relationship with the present moment, we can change our relationship. We can change our interpretation, our perspective, and yes, our belief about the present moment to what serves us better..........oh, and what might be more accurate.

Some time ago, I wrote about the fact that of all the billions of stimuli that we are exposed to in any given moment, in other words all of the information that our senses can pick up on, touch, smell, hear, taste, see and yes, sense (the proverbial sixth sense), we process one/one billionth. And how we determine which one/one billionth of the billions available to us that we actually process every moment. Well, its what supports what we already believe to be true.

So, what if what we already believe to be true is in fact not accurate?

Well, from a pragmatic standpoint, if you believe it to be true, then for you it is true, regardless of how things work out for you. On the other hand, if you open your mind to the possibility that what you believe is in fact not true, then infinite possibilities arise.......and who is it that has the determination of these infinite possibilities? YOU!!! I'm talking about the true YOU, not the personality you or the Ego you.......I'm talking about the ineffable, eternal you that is tapped in, tuned in and turned on with the Universe!!!

Befriend the Ego (the dysfunctional relationship with the present moment) and utilize it for what it was designed. If you let it, it will prod, poke, stimulate and as I like to think about it, slap you upside the head and say "hey Dumb Ass, I'm talking to you". The next time you are in any emotion or feeling that is not empowering or positive, ask yourself "How can I look at this situation differently? How can this situation actually Serve me? How can I interact with this situation in a functional way that is beneficial for all involved?"

What does that mean? Well, I was once told a story long ago about misperceptions. There was a husband and wife, pretty normal in every way, including the wife being very insecure (it could just as easily be the husband that was insecure) and not very connected with the Love of herself let alone her partner. How she felt in the relationship had everything to do with her perception of how well her husband met her expectations of what she needed in order to feel loved. As you can guess he did not meet her perceived expectations of what a husband in love with her would do. As time went by she began letting her Ego (dysfunctional relationship with Now) begin perceiving what supported her belief that she was not loved.

If he received a phone call at night, she would question him on who it was, why they were calling, etc. If he had to work late for whatever reason, she would wonder if he was meeting someone else which worked its way to her actually driving to his work to see if he was actually there. This escalated to her beginning to accuse him of unfounded behavior, which as you might imagine began causing him to change his behavior towards her, which fed into her delusions of him not loving her. That was her truth as unfounded as it was, it was her truth and she perceived from moment to moment all that supported that belief.

So to cut to the chase, one night the husband had an unexpected late meeting called at work. He called his wife and tried to explain and could not tell her what time he would be home as he was not sure due to the nature of the meeting. In frustration, she hung up on him. This caused the husband frustration as you might imagine, and sensing that his marriage was spiraling out of control, he told his boss that he had an emergency and could not stay for the meeting. His boss understood and said he would brief him the next day.

In the husband's desire to get home and try to resolve his wife's irrational behavior, he was driving faster than he should have for the conditions of the road, came around a corner, lost control of his car and hit an oncoming car from the opposite direction. Both drivers were in critical condition and rushed to the hospital. The husband was unconscious for several days, however upon coming out of a near coma, he was told by doctors that he had been in a car accident and that the other driver was in critical condition in the room next to his and was his wife.

In the Wife's, distrust of the husband's story about a meeting, she wanted to confirm that in fact he was lying and jumped in her car to justify her distrust of him by confirming that he was not at work as he told her he was. Now, the story as it was told to me was that both made full recoveries, and the incident was enough that they were able to work through their issues and rebuilt a stronger relationship than they had ever had before.

I can't verify that the story is actually true, however, it does make it easy to see how truth, our own (personal truth being what we believe as opposed to actual fact) is not always factual and can very easily not serve us.

So, the next time you find yourself in a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment, ask yourself, "How else might I look at this situation or person that serves me better?"

Did you know that the word conspiracy actually means "breathing together?"

A SPIRITUAL "CONSPIRACY"

On the surface of our world right now
There is war, violence, and craziness
And things may seem dark.

But calmly and quietly
At the same time
Something is happening underground.

An inner revolution is taking place
And certain individuals
Are being called to a higher light.

It is a silent revolution
From the inside out
From the ground up.

This is a global co-operation
That has sleeper cells in every nation.
It is a planetary Spiritual Conspiracy.

You won't likely see us on T.V.
You won't read about us in the newspaper.
You won't hear from us on the radio.

We don't seek glory.
We don't wear any uniform.
We come in all shapes and sizes, colors and styles.

We are in every country and culture of the world
In cities big and small, mountains and valleys
In farms and villages, tribes and remote islands.

Most of us work anonymously
Seeking not recognition of name
But profound transformation of life.

Working quietly behind the scenes
You could pass by one of us on the street
And not even notice.

We go undercover
Not concerned for who takes the final credit
But simply that the work gets done.

Many of us may seem to have normal jobs.
But behind the external storefront
Is where the deeper work takes a place.

With the individual and collective power
Of our minds and hearts
We spread passion, knowledge, and joy to all.

Some call us the Conscious Army
As together
We co-create a new world.

Our orders come from the Spiritual Intelligence Agency
Instructing us to drop soft, secret love bombs
when no one is looking.

Poems—Hugs—Music—Photography—Smiles—Kind words
Movies—Meditation and Prayer—Dance—Websites
Social Activism—Blogs—Random Acts of Kindness

We each express ourselves
In our own unique ways
With our own unique gifts and talents.

"Be the change you want to see in the world"
That is the motto that fills our hearts.
We know this is the path to profound transformation.

We know that quietly and humbly
Individually and collectively
We have the power of all the oceans combined.

At first glance our work is not even visible.
It is slow and meticulous
Like the formation of mountains.

And yet with our combined efforts
Entire tectonic plates
Are being shaped and moved for centuries to come.

Love is the religion we come to share
And you don't need to be highly educated
Or have exceptional knowledge to understand it.

Love arises from the intelligence of the heart
Embedded in the timeless evolutionary pulse
Of all living beings.

Be the change you want to see in the world.
Nobody else can do it for you.
Yet don't forget, we are all here supporting you.

We are now recruiting.
Perhaps you will join us
Or already have.

For in this spiritual conspiracy
All are welcome, and all are loved.
The door is always open.

—Author Appropriately Unknown

Are you willing to have what you want?

Are you willing to have what you want? What kind of silly question is that? A common notion is that if I want something then obviously I'm willing to have it. But it's never that simple. A second question that is almost always never considered is; "Are you willing not to have what you want?"

Well, if I want it, then I want it.....why would I be willing not to have it? Will and desire are not the same thing. Take for instance, the desire to have the ideal, loving, nuturing and mutually benefiting relationship. Who does not genuinely desire to have a relationship such as that? But how many people are willing to have that same relationship? Just as crucial is the question, "Who is willing to not have that same relationship".

Let's start with being willing to have that relationship. Are you willing to allow it? Are you willing to surrender to it? You can't make it happen, but you can allow it to happen. Most of us come from a mindset or belief set that the person we are in a relationship with needs to behave or treat us a particular way in order for us to be happy......and in theory we reciprocate and in doing so we contribute to their happiness. Now this approach varies from person to person, but holds true for all of us.....yes, its true for you and me, and it's not inherently bad.....but if you chronically stay in that mode.........it's just not a very effective approach. And if you chronically think that way, it becomes your belief and pretty soon, that is how you operate in autopilot mode.

A different approach that is much more empowering is to not need the other person to behave a particular way to meet your approval or make you happy. Not only is this approach empowering, it's natural.....but it's contrary to the illusion (belief) most of us reside in. The essence of who you are, the ineffable eternal you, does not need anything at all. That aspect or perspective of you is everything.......it's the difference between you being in the world or the world being in You. How empowering is it when you can genuinely come from a place where not one person needs to do anything in order for you to experience utter joy......or not one thing needs to change in order for you to be in that state of joy. Pretty freakin' empowering, let me tell you!!!

So are you willing to do that? And if you are (and it's not easy, simple, but not easy), then what? Well if you are in that state of Joy, utter well being, pure Love which is your essence, you are aligned with the ineffable, eternal, spirit that is much more you than your physical you. And that is when you are allowing......you are out of your head or mind and in your heart!!! Oh, and guess what!!! The world, the people you interact with, the things that are in your experience can't help but be in resonance with you.......So the question is are you willing to have that? As important is, "Are you willing to not have the people, places and things that are not in resonance with you?". Ouch!! Thats a tough one! No it's not!!! Holy Cow!!! Let's see, Utter Bliss or Drama? hello!!!

Okay, so let's look at being willing to not have that relationship. Well, it comes down to residing in the fact that you know you are capable of having the ideal relationship but not being attached to the wanting of it.........otherwise you are just creating the experience of wanting it. By residing in the fact that we can have, be or do anything we want while not being obsessed with the fact that we don't have it, is an empowered state. Resting in that knowledge is where creativity comes from. And that is allowing.

Here is a real time story that is an example. I was on vacation last week with the beautiful woman I am dating in Tahoe. Kenny Chesney was playing in South Lake Tahoe, and the concert had been sold out for months. I'm not familiar with Kenny Chesney but Des is and really wanted to see him. I told her not to worry, that we would get tickets. She was hoping that we would and asked how I thought we would get them, to which I replied something to the efffect of "Don't know, but we will". I told her I knew we would like I know the sun is coming up tomorrow morning. I set my intention, rested in the feeling of being at the concert, and let it go.

So the day of the concert, we went to will call, and I asked if anyone had cancelled their ticket order or if they knew anyone selling tickets. The woman at the window said "yes, next window, they just released some tickets". So we moved over one window and bought 14th row tickets in a VIP section. Now some people would say "How lucky was that?", but luck had nothing to with getting those tickets. Being willing to get them and being willing not to get them had everything to do with it. I was not thinking about how, I was not pushing to get them, I was allowing them to come to me........and viola', they did!!!

So are you willing to have the relationship? Don't push, don't expect, just allow and enjoy!!!

Responsibility......or Respondability?

What's the difference?...Well, that depends upon the version of you. If you are adhering to the norms or expectations of those around you, family, friends, society.....and your being responsible, your probably cutting back on expenses, digging in to weather the storm. Maybe your working hard to avoid a layoff............you know, your being a responsible individual adapting to life's circumstances........which means you are the version of you that life happens to.

Now, I'm not professing that you throw caution to the wind.......I don't know everyone that reads this and unless your spending most, if not all of your time in the version of yourself that directs your life deliberately as opposed to the version of yourself that life happens to you, that would just be downright reckless!!!  You can't hide from from your secret thoughts or from your beliefs (unconscious) held about the way things are, because they keep showing up as your life!!

However, I do want you to ponder this; What if you came from a version of yourself that embraces "respondability"? What the heck does that mean? Well, it means having the ability to respond to the divinity or "I Amness" that is within each of us..........but like I have said before, you have to get out of your head in order to respond.   Respond to the ineffable part of you that has never been born and will never die, the true you that is in this world but not of it, the version of you that is living with the illusion but not in it.

Every single one of us has had a moment of clarity, utter comfort, joy, confidence, creativity and wisdom that was not the result of an external circumstance, action or material thing.  The question is how did you respond?  Did you linger in the moment and enjoy it until "life" brought you back to "reality"?   Probably, but if that's what happened, the next time you find yourself in that state, ask yourself.......How can I leverage this state?, What can I do with it?  Maybe even, How can I grow within this state?  How can I evolve?  What meaning can I take from this?  

Better yet, to play with a saying of Meister Ekhart, "How best can I let God be God as Me?"  or if that concept makes you nervous, "How best can I let God be God through Me?"......Go ahead, try it and see what happens.......Your making every moment of every day an opportunity for creating the best version of yourself!!  Enjoy!!

Becoming the version of you that enables...

Becoming the "Version" of you that enables you to create your desires. The version that influences life in ways that support you in your endeavors. Whenever I go down this path of discussion, the most common question I get is "So, How many versions of our self are there?" which is a great question.

Since relationships are a common topic of conversation with those I work with, let's start with that. When one wants the perfect relationship, I always ask "Are you willing to be half of that perfect relationship?" and "of course" is usually the standard response. But once we start dialogue around what that means, it becomes clear the individual has not fully considered the payoff and the price of having the perfect relationship. And there is always both! Without exception.  For some the price is opening up and being vulnerable......yes that is very hard to do for many people, including you!!!  And, until you do open up and make yourself vulnerable, how can you be part of the perfect relationship?  How can you receive the payoff of that perfect relationship.......What you want always demands something from you, so are you willing to be the version of you that will provide what is expected?

How many versions of your Self?.....infinite, but you always get to choose.  At any given time one might be in the Victim version of them self.  They did this to me!  Would you just stop bothering me!  Why is this always happening to me?  

Then one might become a deliberate creator and manifest stuff through their thoughts, feelings and intentions (beliefs).  And as long as things are turning out in a way that makes the individual happy, all is good.......but the minute something happens that is not in accord with the individuals desires, they revert back to the victim and make a statement like....."I didn't create that!!"

Then there are times when an individual gets to a state of allowing and divinity comes through them, things happen in perfect synchronicity and the reaction is either "that is so weird" or "that is so awesome".  

Then there are times when an individual is so tapped in to how things are, that divinity manifests as them.  Yes, As them, not through them but as them.......some might call this Christ consciousness or God consciousness.  Words cannot describe the experience.

Ponder this for a moment.  What version of the collective consciousness did the global economic crisis come out of?  Yep, Victim.......Fear, Greed, Separateness, Lack.  What is the price of Victimhood?  In my mind, it is contradiction of what we truly are, or disconnection from what we truly are.  Pure positive Love, Wisdom, Intelligence.......Creativity!!!!  What is the payoff of Victimhood?  The never ending denial of who we are.......and the payoff is for the Ego, not our True Self.  The good news is that an exit strategy from Victimhood is always just one thought away.  

"What bad thing Happens if?" is a very powerful and clarifying question to internalize.  For instance, "What Bad thing Happens if I open up and trust fully and completely the person I am embarking on a relationship with?"  Notice, I didn't ask what bad thing Might happen, or Could happen.....It's always present tense, "What bad thing Happens"........and the answer is always the same........Nothing!  What bad thing comes from you being authentic and genuine in this moment?  Nothing!!!

Now if you have been hurt or betrayed in the past by opening up and being vulnerable, that will be hard to get your hands around Nothing bad happens right now.  I'm not disputing that this thing happened to you, but I am asking how long do you plan to carry it around with you.  Look at from a contrast standpoint......what happened in the past is what makes what you will have in the future so sweet.  The price and payoff!!!

Know Thyself, The True Self......The I AM

I was talking with a dear friend the other day and she asked me, "How do you know when you are in touch with your True Self?  I mean, how do you know the difference between your ego or personality and your True Self?"  My reply without hesitation was "Alignment"!!!  When you are aligned or in resonance with the essence of You, the "I Am-ness" from which we all came, You know it.

She looked at me like she had heard me say that 25 times before (which she had) and said "yeah, but how do you know "it" when you know it.  My reply didn't help her in "Knowing it", but we did experience a change in both of us during that moment that did help her.  I said, "It is different for everyone, and it is beyond what words can describe.  I think it was Lao Tzu that said, and I'm paraphrasing, "the Tao that can be told, is not the eternal Tao."  The eternalness or divine-ness that is the essence of us, or as I prefer it, the "I Am-ness" can't be told, it can only be experienced, and good thing too......!

The experience of change we were having........and I asked her "Do you feel where we are moving to?"  and she nodded yes.   I said the dialogue that we are having is being allowed, its not contrived or strategic in nature.....it just flows.   For instance, the thought of the four noble truths from Buddhism came to my mind at the right time, and made perfect sense to her.

1.  Anything is possible.

2.  You can't make anything happen.

3.  You can allow anything to happen.

4.  If you allow it to happen in order to make it happen, it won't happen.

(which by the way, is why so many people that "use" the Law of Attraction are frustrated when what they wanted to create is not showing up.....you know those "where is my stuff" people)

So, how is it that you know you are allowing?  How is it that you "know your True Self"?  You feel it.  If your in the middle of something, and the thought comes to mind, "am I aligned with my True Self?"  the answer is always right there.......How do you feel?  If you feel light, joyous, strong, empowered, loving, compassionate, grateful or just positive in nature.......you are more aligned than not aligned.  On the other end of the spectrum, if you feel like you are frustrated, or struggling, or that what you are doing is difficult or anything other than light and powerful........you are out of alignment.  

Now, there are several keys to this.  The first is, you need to be able to stop and observe where you are at in the middle of something.  This can be very difficult for people.  But, as you practice this, it becomes very easy and very powerful.  So, an easy way to start, is to do this, be very deliberate and however you organize your day, set aside an activity, any activity......it could be grocery shopping, or having lunch.......but use that activity to practice observing where you are mentally during that activity.  (You will see what David Bohm meant when he said, We think we are having our thoughts, but most of the time our thoughts are having us)  You want to just observe, don't judge the actual thoughts, don't try to stop them, you just want to observe.  Observe your thoughts...... are they open and curious, or judging in nature? Are they compassionate or possessing? 

The second Key is, observe from your heart, not your head.  Your intellect has nothing to do with this process, it's a feeling process.  To the Divine or "I Am-ness", intellect is a non-issue.  The "I Am" is omni-sentient, omni-powerful, omni-knowing.  So get out of your head and into your heart.......That is what "If you do not go within, you go without" means.

Okay, so now I am going to close and let you be with this thought process........when you get to the point that you are observing your thoughts, where are you?  Are you in your body, or is your body in you?  Are you in the room your body is in, or is the room your body is in, in you.  Are you in the world you know as your world, or is the world in You?  

I like this, next I'll look at becoming the Self You want to be and what that can mean.

Greater Good is always flowing....are you in it?

Do you believe your life is unfolding toward an ever greater fulfillment, greater joy, health, love, prosperity? That your greater good is always flowing into your experience? Take that a step further, are you allowing this to occur? Or are you trying to change what is? Two very different states, and where do you think most people are? let's take the current economic situation. The government is rather clumsily attempting to "Stimulate" the economy with a $800 billion bill. Most people are saving money and have cut back spending for fear of the economy getting worse. Financial pundits are telling us to pay off debt and save money. Now what does the economy need to rev up? Money spent, not saved......but the over riding sentiment is things are going to get worse before they get better.....which perpetuates the fear of spending and the "need" for saving.

Does that over riding sentiment of things are going to get worse before they get better.........sound anything close to the belief that "Your greater good is always flowing into your experience"? or that "Life is unfolding toward an ever greater fulfillment, greater joy, better health, love and prosperity"? So what do you suppose would happen if for one week, 50%, or even just 25% of the population, actually operated from the intention that "My greater good is always flowing into my experience"? That when they saw a doom and gloom report, they took the stance, "okay, whatever!!...so glad that's not my experience". Well, what would happen is that the economy would get a shot in the arm like never before.........Don't think so? Try it, just for a week, and if it's hard to be in the right state of mind.........when you catch yourself holding back from spending.......ask yourself this question "What bad thing will happen from me spending this money"? Not what bad thing could happen or will happen after I spend it......"what bad thing will happen from me spending this money"? The answer will always be, "nothing" as long as you are operating from the belief and knowing that "My greater good is always flowing into my experience".

Now, the key about this concept is that we have to embody this is as our reality. One of my favorite teachers says, "Practice is not about manifestation, it's about alignment", and that is the rub....it's about aligning ourselves with the experience we desire. So, what does "my greater good is always flowing into my experience" feel like for you........get into that feeling and rest there for a bit, How freaking Good is that? Hello!!

NOW LISTEN!!! this is important!! When something presents itself, and it will, that seems to be contrary with that intention.........DO NOT jump into alignment with that experience by asking "What the hell?", that's not my greater good!!!................that's contradicting your intention!!! Just observe it and don't place a value on it..........Your greater good will flow to you in myriad different ways, and knowing that as you reside in that feeling (you know that Freaking good feeling!)......it is flowing to you, it will, it is!!! It can't not flow to you........unless you ask "Where's my stuff", which then creates you being in a state of lack of your stuff!!!

I'm doing it next week, when I order my new Harley Davidson Street Glide........adding to my stable of Harley's.........Yeah baby!!!! Which made me realize I need a bigger Garage,,,,,,there's that greater good flowing to me again!!! Holy Cow!!!! Better start House hunting!

"I can see, and that is why I can be happy, in what you call the dark, but which to me is golden. I can see a God-made world, not a manmade world."

"I can see, and that is why I can be happy, in what you call the dark, but which to me is golden. I can see a God-made world, not a man made world." Helen Keller

See a God made world as opposed to a man made world!!! What genius!! How easily we forgo being able to see the Divine essence of everything in lieu of "Me, Mine, My".

My Sunday's are now my day to deliberately change my way of thinking. Change your mind, its really pretty simple.............the next time you react to something and become frustrated or maybe even down right pissed off.........STOP!! Then move into a place of "gratitude" about the circumstance..........even if its being grateful that you recognized you were reacting. Stay in that place of gratitude as long as you can.........even if it's only 68 seconds, and then be present enough to observe what happens, what changes, see how you feel.

When you do this, you deliberately created a better experience...........and do it with "Enthusiasm"............Why? Well, did you know that Enthusiasm comes from the Greek word "en thous" meaning possessed by God.........So when your enthusiastic, GOD is within you (always is) and you see a God made world............We need more eyes seeing that world.