Ah, YEAH!!!

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment."

Marcus Aurelius

I was talking to one of my best friends the other day and the topic turned to how fickle people can be with how they feel about another person. Someone is in Love with another person until the other person does or says something that the first person does not like, or sometimes it is just what they appear to have done. At work, people are held in high regard until they do something that does not support their peer or manager. Just like that they can go from the fast track to hitting a glass ceiling.

So as we talked, I said "you know what would change everything, and again it is all perspective, but say a couple had a falling out, the woman got upset about something the man did. If they sat down and agreed that they did not want to be upset with each other, all they have to do is put themselves in the context that they have one last day to spend together......and decide how they want to spend it. I could be wrong, but I doubt it would be pissed at each other.......It would probably be doing something they both enjoy or have talked about doing but as yet have not done. Hell, maybe they spend the day in bed!!!

The difference is the version of themselves that they choose to be. My friend playing devil's advocate countered with, "yeah, but the issue isn't resolved". Yeah, but the version of who they are for that day does not care......it's irrelevant, and how many "issues" when it comes right down to it are irrelevant?

Okay, Okay......I'll be practical.........just because the couple had an issue, does not mean they need to grant it the authority of a conclusion. In other words, change your assessment of it or as Marcus would say "revoke your estimate of the external thing causing you distress".


If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask nobody to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world or needing to control your mate or your child. You are the only one that creates your reality, for nobody else can think for you, it is only you.

Abe

This one is tricky, "the cumbersome impossibility of needing to control your mate or child". Ouch!!! But true!! This is perplexing, shouldn't we as parent's control our children? Well, How did that work out for your parents? I don't know very many "Adults" that have the track record of never having done stupid things or having never totally fucked up at some point in their life.......I'm much more down with guiding my boys to understand the last sentence, "You are the only one that creates your reality, for nobody else can think for you, it is only you."

From a parenting standpoint, I think its much more responsible to teach our kids to think for themselves including how to make the right decisions for themselves, but I also know that is counter to the conventional parenting wisdom.......you know the wisdom that at a certain age, you know what is best for someone else..........or the wisdom that ascribes to a government mandate on education, but I'm digressing.......You get my point!!

There is nothing "out there" independent of what's happening inside of me. In other words what's happening "out there" is very much affected by what I have going on inside of me, my mind, my thoughts and emotions. Without my thoughts and feelings the external world would be very much different. Now think about that, the impact that mine and your thoughts have on what is happening outside of us, in everyone Else's experience.

Fred Alan Wolf

This one is tricky as well. You have witting and unwitting thoughts and beliefs......you know that, right? Some of both, the witting and unwitting do not serve us and or actually work against us. The belief that "you" are the "effect" of the external world as the "cause".......and yes you do believe that to some extent!!!........you know when you get upset or frustrated or sad when something doesn't go your way, or someone does not comply with your desires......like your mate or your child.........or the classic "Your Ex". That is the world being the cause and you being the effect. Hell, It's a daily occurrence for most people.

That backward cause and effect perspective is an unwitting belief. It's not deliberate, it's by default.........and it's wrong. You are the cause of your external experience...........You see things because you believe them........not what most people think which is the old saying "I'll believe it when I see it"........I've got news for you, You ain't gonna see it if you don't believe it.

Now the tricky part to Dr. Quantum's, it's actually the good part. You have a local and a non-local aspect of you. You know, like particle and Wave function. The particle aspect of you is the "I am a man" or "I am a Father".......think of it as "I am" followed by a predicate. I am tired, or I am disappointed is the local or particle aspect of You in play. The non-local or Wave aspect of you is just "I am", its the you that when you are in deep thought or meditation "just is" not attached to anything. The Wave aspect of you is not in you or even this world, just the opposite, they are in the Wave aspect of you. Doink!!!

Now, think of a wave more as a verb rather than a noun, potential rather than a thing........that non-local, wave, aspect of You is infinite potential. And as infinite potential, that is where every version of you exists. So get quiet, get still, clear out your thoughts........and rest in the "I amness" of your non local self. Now choose the version of you that you wish to be, and reside in that self for just a minute or maybe two. Feel what the self feels like........and don't be surprised if you catch yourself smiling, nothing wrong with that..........you are creating from that version of you and guess what? The Universe only knows, Okay, here you go.

This is what the voice was talking about at the burning bush when Moses asked the voice, "Who shall I tell the Pharaoh sent me to attain the release of the slaves". The voice simply said, "Tell him 'I am that I am", meaning I am the I am that is the infinite potential to make that which serves take place. Make sense? The voice didn't say "I am the ruler of the universe" which would be limiting, no Moses heard, I am that I am...........I am one with all that is, ever was or will be.........and guess what? You have that aspect as well...........just choose to be "I am"!!!